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I'm a grown woman and I can do whatever I want.
( Spectators)

"Femininity is depicted as weakness, the sapping of strength, yet masculinity is so fragile that apparently even the slightest brush with the feminine destroys it."  -

Gwen Sharp

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"Cunt again? It was odd how men … used that word to demean women when it was the only part of a woman they valued."  - Asha Greyjoy, A Dance With Dragons (via disgustinghuman)


"Katy Perry isn’t “Woman Of The Year” because she’s made any great strides for her gender, or questioned her position in popular culture, or challenged the dominant social structures in her life. She’s “Woman Of The Year” because she’s done the exact opposite on all counts. She’s been quiet, complacent, and pretty, and she’s made her executives and managers millions of dollars in the process. She’s the version of “woman” the industry wants her to be - that is, the exact opposite of a healthy role model for young girls."  - Mish Way for Vice magazine (via sinaesthetica)


dreamingbythestream:

agentbering:

goodfuckingcoffee: 

#yeah let’s talk about how much brighter a child’s future would be if they grew up with 2 parents #while standing in front of a man who had a single mom #and became president of the united states #if only he’d had a father #he might have gotten somewhere in life.


feministdisney: Good article to look into:  Not speaking up about rape jokes condones unequivocally bad behavior, demeans victims Excerpt:  Make no mistake, this isn’t a policing of your thoughts. You’re entitled to think whatever you like without fear of punishment. Your thoughts are your own business. What I’m asking is that you filter your speech a bit and not be so careless with your words… ‘As a blog post from Men Speak Up says, “Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.’

feministdisney:

Good article to look into: 

Not speaking up about rape jokes condones unequivocally bad behavior, demeans victims

Excerpt: 

Make no mistake, this isn’t a policing of your thoughts. You’re entitled to think whatever you like without fear of punishment. Your thoughts are your own business. What I’m asking is that you filter your speech a bit and not be so careless with your words…

‘As a blog post from Men Speak Up says, “Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.’



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"Because you believe something is wrong, doesn’t mean you make it illegal."  -

Brian Brown, President of the National Organization for Marriage on why divorce should be legal, while accidentally crushing his own argument against gay marriage. (via)


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A quick list of reasons why the mainstream ‘gay’ rights movement isn’t doing its job properly…. 

dumbthingsstraightpeoplesay:

(In response to anon asking if there were any groups I like/didn’t like)

1. “Gay” Rights – The mainstream movement is focused almost completely on the concerns and problems of cisgender gay men, cisgender lesbian women and that’s pretty much it. These concerns are obviously of importance but the fact that everyone else is ignored and deleted is not okay. The ‘gay’ rights movement will not actually be serving the purpose for which it was created until it is working for everyone under the LGBTQ+ umbrella.

2. Assimilation and the ‘right’ way to be gay - The gay rights movement can be defined by this:

The mainstream gay rights groups want everyone to believe that that is what being gay looks like. For many, that is indeed the life of choice, but what about the people who, like me, have absolutely no intention of choosing that life?

The gay rights movement tries to hide us from view, it pretends we don’t exist and then, when forced to acknowledge our existence, they just shit all over us, shaming us and telling us that we’re hurting their cause. This is a view that has wormed its way into the collective consciousness of many in the gay community; it’s dangerous and damaging to EVERYONE – I can’t count the number of times I’ve been told that I should ‘act straighter’ because I might be ‘supporting the stereotype’. FUCK THAT!

3. Racism – White people run the gay rights movement and focuses almost completely on the problems faced by other gay white people. Everyone else is pushed out, ignored and shouted down and drowned out. On this point, an anon has messaged me and told me that I’ve written this point very badly. They suggested “largely white people are given credit for running the gay rights movement.” I’m sorry for this. 

4. Dan Savage – and everything Dan Savage related.

5. Marriage Equality – Marriage equality is a very important issue. It affects a massive part of our community however it’s certainly not the be all and end all and I wish the mainstream movement would stop pretending like it is. It’s understandable why it was chosen to be the staple of the movement – it’s a quantifiable thing, it presents clear victories and losses depending of legislative change. When same-sex marriage is legalised, a part of me worries that, due the movement’s focus on it, there will be an idea that homophobia and heterosexism no longer exist and they most certainly will.

Personally, I have absolutely no intention of ever getting married (seriously, it will never ever ever happen) and, just occasionally, I would like to here someone from the mainstream talk about people like me.

6. ‘Debates’ with homophobes – Everyone’s opinions are not equally valid. My opinion on being gay is infinitely more important than anything a heterosexual has ever said on the topic. Let’s acknowledge this.

7. It’s okay to tell homophobes to go fuck themselves – Let’s acknowledge this.

8. If you believe homosexuality or homosexual acts are sins, you’re just wrong – There’s nothing else to it. There is no problem with saying this. Why does the gay rights movement insist on saying ‘you are entitled to your belief, you just shouldn’t put it into law’?

9. Shitty catchphrases – For example, “Homosexuality exists in 450 species; which one is unnatural now?” No one should ever need to justify their existence by comparing themself to a wild animal. Besides natural does not mean something is okay.

These are the ones I could think of in 10 minutes. There are many, many, many more.

All of this is not to say that the mainstream gay rights movement has not had victories and is not doing some good work, but it needs to get its act together!!!


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so-treu:

ohno-polio:

Tip for modern adulterers: If you’re planning to cheat on your wife of 10 years by awkwardly hitting on the model seated next to you on your flight out of Los Angeles, make sure she isn’t live-tweeting the entire miserable experience to her 13,000 followers;

this is even better than that chick who got dudes face tattooed on her arm after a week of dating him. lmao!!!



stfuconservatives: abaldwin360: mindbabies: jsmog: Canada’s teen birth and abortion rate drops by 36.9 per cent Better access to contraception, higher quality sex education and shifting social norms have contributed to a 36.9 per cent decline in Canada’s teen birth and abortion rate between 1996 and 2006, according to a report released today by the Sex Information and Education Council of Canada. America’s emphasis on abstinence-only sex ed “tends to result in a higher percentage of teens becoming pregnant,” as does the country’s lack of universal health care. Poverty is another factor. Among the four countries compared for 2006, Canada boasted the lowest teen birth and abortion rate per 1,000 women aged 15 to 19 (27.9), followed by Sweden (31.4), England/Wales (60.3), and the United States (61.2). THIRTY-SEVEN PERCENT DECREASE? Goddamn. How much more proof will people need before they realize how ineffective Abstinence-Only sex education is? It doesn’t matter how much evidence we have. Zealots will cling to their beliefs. This reminds me of the LA high school where they cut teen pregnancies by two-thirds after putting a Planned Parenthood on campus. Sex ed works, abstinence doesn’t.

stfuconservatives:

abaldwin360:

mindbabies:

jsmog:

Canada’s teen birth and abortion rate drops by 36.9 per cent

Better access to contraception, higher quality sex education and shifting social norms have contributed to a 36.9 per cent decline in Canada’s teen birth and abortion rate between 1996 and 2006, according to a report released today by the Sex Information and Education Council of Canada.

America’s emphasis on abstinence-only sex ed “tends to result in a higher percentage of teens becoming pregnant,” as does the country’s lack of universal health care. Poverty is another factor.

Among the four countries compared for 2006, Canada boasted the lowest teen birth and abortion rate per 1,000 women aged 15 to 19 (27.9), followed by Sweden (31.4), England/Wales (60.3), and the United States (61.2).

THIRTY-SEVEN PERCENT DECREASE? Goddamn. How much more proof will people need before they realize how ineffective Abstinence-Only sex education is?

It doesn’t matter how much evidence we have. Zealots will cling to their beliefs.

This reminds me of the LA high school where they cut teen pregnancies by two-thirds after putting a Planned Parenthood on campus. Sex ed works, abstinence doesn’t.


When I went to Europe 

carlsaganisgayporn:

thisisnotafrica:

I have to start off by saying it was a tough decision to make.  I’ve never left my  my friends and family to embark on a journey to a place where I knew no one. But my world as I knew it was too tiny and there’s so much out there I didn’t know of. 

I visited Europe last month and stayed in this place next to what they call the Eiffel Tower. I loved it. such a strange architecture to symbolize the exotic beauty and power of its people. With my small backpack and my Nikon D7000 camera, I set off futher to explore Europe.

I took pictures along the way. there was a Tomato Festival going on at the time and I managed to get tickets to see a Bull Fighting! The sight was alarming and facinating all at once- a sport to symbolise the raw energy and passion that European people had were shown through this bull fighting. Beautiful!

I went to a shelter and saw some homeless people begging on the streets. It is such a shame how enriched, yet, so poor Europeans are. My heart weeps for Europeans; their courage and strength to survive is inspiring. 

There were loud music playing and people in the streets all looking happy and joyful because they were celebrating ‘OktoberFest’, a day to mark their love of beer and to show that even Europeans have good things to celebrate in life to distract from their everyday pain. I was aware of my privilege so I asked to join this festival incase I upset the natives. What a blast!

I took so many pictures (will post on Facebook later) of the children dancing and smiling but some elders complained about this, they didn’t seem comfortable with a complete stranger touching their young children and taking photos of them to later put on the internet.

I suppose to them, I am a stranger in the midst but it was so joyful having pictures to show back home of my experiences! I am sure they won’t mind in the end. And the children were such wonders! They were so curious about my clothes (I don’t think Europeans have ever seen Nigerian clothes in their life, it must have been so strange for them to view my own culture! It just reminded me of how deprived they were)

After I stopped at the Leaning Tower of Pisa (a great art of their sort!) I went back to  Arba Airport near Helsinki (after I spent a day at Trafalgar Square, pics coming soon) and borded my flight back home, having grown up a little from viewing European Life. 

I am currently saving up to get a tatto of Europe on my shoulder , with a love heart located at the center to represent Belguim. As the Europeans say: 

Τα καλά πράγματα έρχεται σε εκείνους που περιμένουν 

Peace my friends <3



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tofindandnottoyield: theredbookofwesteros: mynamesjustanoose: shortformblog: While Obama was announcing his support for gay marriage, Argentina was formalizing rights for transgendered adults to get publicly-funded sex change operations and ID changes. Top that, America. (photo by Natacha Pisarenko/AP) oh shit. big thumbs up to Argentina. Yeah, see, the unfortunate thing is, we’re not going to. We’re a selfish, corrupt nation that’s way too damn big for its own good or anyone else’s. We’ve got a mostly obsolete and inefficient government and a large citizen majority of people staunchly opposed to change of any kind, anything inconvenient to them even in the slightest, or anything they don’t fully understand. We’re a country of dirt-poor capitalists, members of a democracy in which their voice no longer makes a difference.  So while I hate to leave this on a post so positive (way to go, Argentina!), the fact of the matter is that the way things are in America, and the way they are likely to continue being, more or less, unless something really big happens to change the collective mindset and get the nation off their asses and into the places you go to learn how to care, we are not going to accomplish anything like that.  Welcome to America, the best country on Earth, where there’s more empty houses than homeless people on our streets, and they’re still homeless, where congressional votes go to the highest bidder, where the only people who ever get in positions of power don’t come from places without it and don’t give a damn, don’t even understand enough to try giving a damn about most people they’re supposed to serve, a place where one in two recent college graduates is unemployed, where you can’t get a job if you don’t go to school, but if you go to school you’ll never be able to pay it off. They tell you you’re happy while they tie you down and, without a warrant, strip search for any things that might make you different from normal, and they tell you they’re wrong. Spokespeople in designer clothes and designer bodies tell you you’re beautiful just the way you are as they sell you diet soda and magazines packed full of girls you’ll never look like, and when you stop eating to look the way they all told you that you had to be, they shame you for not seeing how beautiful you already where, or did you forget the words they hissed through their bleached smiling teeth and only see everything else? Dystopia, noun.  A dystopia is the idea of a society in a repressive and controlled state, often under the guise of being utopian. God bless America, right? See this is why it’s good that The Hunger Games are popular. We already live in Panem.

tofindandnottoyield:

theredbookofwesteros:

mynamesjustanoose:

shortformblog:

While Obama was announcing his support for gay marriage, Argentina was formalizing rights for transgendered adults to get publicly-funded sex change operations and ID changes. Top that, America. (photo by Natacha Pisarenko/AP)

oh shit. big thumbs up to Argentina.

Yeah, see, the unfortunate thing is, we’re not going to. We’re a selfish, corrupt nation that’s way too damn big for its own good or anyone else’s. We’ve got a mostly obsolete and inefficient government and a large citizen majority of people staunchly opposed to change of any kind, anything inconvenient to them even in the slightest, or anything they don’t fully understand. We’re a country of dirt-poor capitalists, members of a democracy in which their voice no longer makes a difference. 

So while I hate to leave this on a post so positive (way to go, Argentina!), the fact of the matter is that the way things are in America, and the way they are likely to continue being, more or less, unless something really big happens to change the collective mindset and get the nation off their asses and into the places you go to learn how to care, we are not going to accomplish anything like that. 

Welcome to America, the best country on Earth, where there’s more empty houses than homeless people on our streets, and they’re still homeless, where congressional votes go to the highest bidder, where the only people who ever get in positions of power don’t come from places without it and don’t give a damn, don’t even understand enough to try giving a damn about most people they’re supposed to serve, a place where one in two recent college graduates is unemployed, where you can’t get a job if you don’t go to school, but if you go to school you’ll never be able to pay it off. They tell you you’re happy while they tie you down and, without a warrant, strip search for any things that might make you different from normal, and they tell you they’re wrong. Spokespeople in designer clothes and designer bodies tell you you’re beautiful just the way you are as they sell you diet soda and magazines packed full of girls you’ll never look like, and when you stop eating to look the way they all told you that you had to be, they shame you for not seeing how beautiful you already where, or did you forget the words they hissed through their bleached smiling teeth and only see everything else?

Dystopia, noun. 

A dystopia is the idea of a society in a repressive and controlled state, often under the guise of being utopian.

God bless America, right?

See this is why it’s good that The Hunger Games are popular. We already live in Panem.


"But here’s the thing about rights. They’re not actually supposed to be voted on. That’s why they’re called rights. No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States."  -

Rachel Maddow

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